Marriage is a big decision; it is a commitment for life. You should be very careful in making this decision as from here on, you will not just share a life together, but also share your whole future with this person.
And the best way to know that the choice you are making is the right one is to do things together. You can even consider a live-in relationship because trust me, you never know a person completely as long as you don’t live with them.
On that note, I have enlisted 5 things you and your probable future partner should do, before you make the big decision.
- Do the money talk
Marriage is not a one-time contract, it’s a lifetime agreement of living together and sharing lives. So now that most things in your life will involve both of you, you are bound to notice a rise in daily expenses.
Further marriages are an expensive affair, no matter how close or intimate you are planning them to be. Also, if you are planning to have kids in the future, you need to be prepared and talk about how you are planning to distribute monetary responsibilities.
It might be difficult doing “the money talk” but it will surely keep you prepared for the good, the bad, the ugly, and the worst possible scenarios of what the future can hold.
- Live together (atleast, for some time!)
You might find this to be a new or modern-day concept, but you definitely cannot undermine its efficiency. Each one of us has weird habits and if you are marrying someone, both of you should be comfortable and accepting of this awkward side of each other.
It doesn’t mean that your future partner should have the same habits as yours, but they should be compatible. If living-in together is not possible, sharing weekends should be your top-most priority.
- Have SEX! (Yes, I mean it!)
There is something known as bedroom compatibility that cannot be known as long as you guys are in the actual act. I am not saying that you should base your marriage on sex, but one cannot disagree that it has its share of great importance in a successful marriage.
You might be the best-looking or the most successful partner, but if you both are not compatible in bed, the other positives will mean very little. What if both of you have different sexual preferences, for instance, one of you likes oral and the other just can’t bear the thought of it. This cannot be known until you do it for real.
Plus, now that you have made up your mind, do not forget protection to practice safe sex. You will be amazed by the kind of variety available for your pleasure. I suggest Caution Wear Iron Grip Condoms, which are highly lubricated and offers pleasure almost equivalent to comdomless sex!
- Do the baby talk
Some people want kids, some don’t and whatever be the reason, it’s extremely important for you to be on the same page with your partner. After the marriage, you don’t want shockers that might just ruin your dreams – both family or career!
Doing the baby talk not just involves whether your partner wants kids or not, it also involves, when, and how many babies they desire.
- Travel together
Most people love to travel and if you are one of them, you will agree that there’s a lot that you discover while you are on the move. If you are willing to spend a lifetime together, this is the best exercise to get to know each other.
Take a trip, spend time together, share experiences, because no matter how much you try, life will change drastically post marriage.
Over to you…
So, there were a few must-dos for you to help decide whether or not you want to spend a lifetime with each other. Some points above will help you make the right decision, and some points are just to make profound memories before you say, “I DO.”
Sir Hugh Taylor
Professor Mahendra Patel
